Unsupportive Spouses

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Soooo, this isn’t a topic a lot of people like to discuss. It makes us all feel this wave of negativity that surrounds us uncomfortably. It shouldn’t be that way. We should be able to accept whatever comes our way and master multiple methods on how to comfortably move on and carry on with what you are focusing on.

I can personally relate on some levels. It has honestly been a roller coaster ride with hubbie and I. One day he supports me. The following he doesn’t. He can’t seem to make up his mind! He wasn’t quite supportive when I started working from home. He wasn’t thrilled about the idea. He wasn’t not thrilled either. He simply didn’t want to learn about the opportunity. He just didn’t really care.

To be completely honest with you, his biggest concern was me not having the time. I hate to admit it… but he was kind of right in a sense. My daughter was 2 months at the time, and my son was about 1 and a half. What was I thinking taking something that huge in my plate? Haha. Well… I saw the opportunity and vision as the vehicle to move my family into the direction we needed to achiever bigger and greater things. I took a leap and faith and jumped right in! I knew it wasn’t going to be easy, but I was confident that it was going to be worth it!

We argued many times. Most of the time he would initiate the argument by asking me “what are you always doing on your phone?” If you are sitting here reading this post, then I’m sure you get asked that too! Regardless of how many times or ways I explained what I was actually doing… the less he understood. LOL. I quickly learned that by explaining what he didn’t “care” to learn about, the more ignorant he became, and the more s*** he had to talk.

It used to bug me. It really did. Sometimes that is. I knew what I was working towards. I knew I was getting closer. But every time he opened his mouth and had something negative to say, it just brought me down. It was like going over a speed bump on the road, that I didn’t see. I hit my first huge goal within my first two calendar months. I earned a $1000 bonus in addition to promoting two ranks up in my company and earning an average of $599 monthly. I was so proud of myself and this accomplishment. I thought it would ‘satisfy’ him. I thought he would be proud that I was in fact able to make this work so far. I thought he would get off my case. Did that happen? No, not really. LOL

After I hit that goal. I was content! I sat there for a bit, I’m not going to lie. I knew that I made it that far and that I was only going UP from there! I actually spent the next few weeks writing all the pros about what I was trying to do and all the goals I wanted/ needed to achieve for my family. It almost felt like I was trying to convince myself that I was doing the right thing. It wasn’t a good feeling.

I woke up one morning, enjoyed my coffee and smoke while Jack pottied, and all these light bulbs started going off in my head. I started thinking about ways that I could just SHUT negativity out so that I could continue focusing on my children, myself and my business. Below, are the 3 things I came up with that changed my mind set completely!

1. Spin the negatives into positives.
This sounds harder then it really is. It may also seem impossible to some. But it’s not. Really! Take all the negative comments that make you feel yucky inside and spin them around into positive, warm and fuzzy thoughts. This will change your entire life AND business.
Here are some questions you can ask yourself that can help you make the spin.

• How is that negative?
• Why is it positive?
• Am I worthy?
• Do I believe in myself?

2. Ignore
This may not sound very nice. But in all honestly, if you can do #1, this step should be easy. What I mean by ignore is simply: hear it, accept it, dismiss it. Ask yourself this… if it isn’t going to grow you as a person, or your business, then why does it matter? It doesn’t. Exactly my point!

Personally, I still get ‘negative’ comments thrown at me here and there. Not only from hubbie. But friends and family also. I’m sure you do too! & that’s okay! It’s totally normal. You will have to practice these 3 steps so that your mind naturally processes them whenever need be. I promise you, it will work!

3. Always remain POSITIVE.
This one is a given. If you can do numbers 1&2, then you’re basically already doing this! This is probably one of the MOST important things you can do regularly – in fact, daily! You must ALWAYS be positive. You want to think, be, and feel positive. Why? The vibes you feel are the vibes you attract. Have you ever heard the saying “your vibe attracts your tribe?” It not only sounds cool because it rhymes, but it is totally true! If you haven’t included anything remotely close to the Law of Attraction in your personal development… that is something you definitely should consider! Only YOUR thoughts and actions can determine your life.

I hope you enjoyed and found value from this. If so, feel free to drop a comment and share it with your friends and family!

Marleana Da Silva  #momonamission #mwa

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3 thoughts on “Unsupportive Spouses

  1. Wow this is truly AMAZING WORDS! I couldn’t have put it in any other way, your pointers I mean of course. It is extremely important to be a positive and stay a positive person, mentally, physically and emotionally. If not you just drag yourself down and everyone around you.

    Thanks so much for all the amazing words you express! You do an amazing job at writing and expressing your feelings / best BLOG seen so FAR 😁 Really motivating and actually makes you see your own life in a whole different way!! AMAZING

  2. Thank you so much for this what a great read!!!. As you now I have dealt with the same thing that crazy Rollercoaster of the hubby and family and friends and I know that they can’t build my business have to do it and let their negative feedback stay on the back shelf and stay positive. I am going to continue to stay positive and work more on my personal development. Thanks again your truly amazing and aand inspiration.

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