Rainy Days

Guest Post by Jennifer Rodrigues, Together Not Alone

Rainy days…. what is the first thought that comes to your head when you think rainy days?

I could probably name some……

Ugh my plans are ruined 🙉

Mood changer 😩

Depressing 😔

Staying indoors 😢

Messy 😳

My hair 🙉

Am I correct? I guess that’s roughly 80% of peoples thoughts, I believe there are many more of course but those I say are the main ones.

Now tell me why do we as humans dislike the rain? Why do we think of rainy days as a negative impact?

Because its wet? Ahahaha don’t we shower? We get wet then yea? Nothing wrong with a little nature shower 😝. Is it because our moods seem to automatically change; we feel sluggish, tired etc.? Maybe it’s because we don’t have sunshine and it’s gloomy outside, dark, and sad?!

You do know that it has a lot to do with what you tell yourself right?!

Have you ever tried to look at the brighter side?!

WANT TO KNOW WHAT I LOVE ABOUT RAINY DAYS?…….

I love how I can open up my windows, feel the refreshing air blowing calmly into my house with that lovely scent of nature. I love the sound it makes when it hits the ground, watching the rain fall is pretty amazing. How on a rainy day you get to relax indoors, make a bowl of popcorn, lay back and watch a movie. Having a game day/night. Oh and I can’t forget the best part…. KISSING IN THE RAIN, idk why but it makes it much more romantic 😏

Have you every stopped to notice how everything looks so much brighter? The trees, the grass and the roads. It all comes to LIFE ❤️

When Mother Nature decides to give us rain we should look at it as a positive and powerful thing, because without it we wouldn’t have plants, crops, trees… everything would be dead! No oxygen from the TREES , and our soil would be non stabilized. Remember without that we could not give life to our wildlife!!…

So today or on the next rainy day, try to embrace all the positive things of rain and make it a great and happy day!

Rain is grace; rain is the sky descending to the earth; without rain there would be no LIFE 🙏

Thank you

Jennifer Rodrigues

Together, Not Alone

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7 Steps to Easier Communication With Your Kids

Are you concerned about the level of communication you have with your children? It’s frustrating when you can’t really seem to connect with each other – especially about the things that matter!

On the other hand, effective communication not only enables you to understand each other, but it also strengthens your bond. Wouldn’t you love to have this level of communication?

Luckily, there are steps you can take to strengthen your communication.

Following these tips can help you more easily communicate with your children:

1. Keep an open door policy. Your children will be more willing to talk if you make it clear that you’re willing to listen to them. An open door policy means that you’re not too busy or stressed to deal with their issues.

○ Children need to know that they can come to you with any issue and feel confident that you’re willing to listen and talk when they need you.

2. Listen first. If you listen to them without talking or interrupting, it shows your kids that you care what they think, and they’ll share more with you.

○ Sometimes, your kids may simply need to vent or share their thoughts.

○ At other times, they may want some feedback as well, but you’ll need to listen first to determine their need.

3. Ask questions. Questions can show your children that you’re paying attention to them and that you care.

○ Ask appropriate questions that are relevant to the conversation.

○ Ask open questions, appropriate for your child’s developmental level, to spark more conversation. Try not to stump your kids or make them feel hurt. Avoid questions that make them feel defensive.

4. Use easy conversations to strengthen your bond. In some conversations, you don’t have to offer advice. Your children may simply want to talk and discuss their day.

○ Your kids may also want to solve some issues on their own without your interference.

○ It’s important to use communication to build your relationship with your child, and sharing-only conversations support this endeavor.

5. Use positive language. The language you use during a conversation with your children can affect them. They can tell if you’re being sarcastic and mean. They can tell if you’re being negative or bored. They can also tell when you’re being kind and loving.

○ Your language can affect the entire conversation and its direction. The way you react to your child’s words can show them that you care.

○ It’s crucial to use positive language with your kids and show them that words matter.

6. Avoid anger. Your child may share information that makes you angry. But anger can stop a conversation or lead to a fight in an instant. Anger can also make your children afraid to talk to you.

○ If you want to strengthen your communication, it’s crucial to learn to control your anger.

○ Your anger shows your children that you’re emotional. It makes sharing difficult information or issues much harder for them, and they may even avoid you.

7. Give children space. Nagging your children to talk more usually doesn’t work. Avoid making your kids feel like they have to share every instant of their days with you.

○ Your children may need space, and communication can actually benefit from it.

○ They also need room to develop on their own, to grow and change. As they grow, their communication will change too. Try to go with the flow.

You can make communication an easier, more effective process with your children. Practice these tips and as your communication grows, as well as your relationship with your kids.

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Christmas Freebies for your LO’s!!

 

 

My favourite time of year has just passed… Christmas!

The happiest, jolliest, most enjoyed and loved Holiday of the year – for most!

For the last 3 years, I’ve been consistently doing tons of things for my kids, to brighten up their Christmas spirits and to include in our existing and new family traditions.

I will be sharing these things with you, so you can (if you don’t already) do these things with you little ones!

You can start by CALLING Santa!

Call Santa

Be sure to leave a voicemail for a CALL BACK!

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This year, was the first year we wrote a letter to SANTA! And he actually WROTE back. How exciting, I know!

Letter to Santa Claus

Canada Post is amazing and has a system set up to help Santa receive and respond to each and every letter he receives. Santa is SOOO busy, he needs all the help he can get!

This is Santa Claus’ North Pole mailing address:

Santa Claus

You will have to ensure that you get your childs’ or children’s letter out in time/ by the deadline, in order to receive their reply letter before Christmas. You can learn more about writing a letter to Santa (including accessing age appropriate templates and more) during operation days by visiting www.canadapost.ca/santa

During “non operating days” of the year, you will see a special message from Santa.

I will update this post in 2018 to include more details such as deadlines and any other exciting news.

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PNP! Portable North Pole! 🙂

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Create your FREE Santa video at the PNP. You can create multiple videos, for multiple children. You can even create Santa video’s for adults! You can get away with the FREEBIES, but of course have the option to update and get other cool things and extras. We stuck with free 🙂

Check out Jacob’s video from Santa HERE.

Check out Victoria’s video from Santa HERE.

You can learn more about the Portable North Pole and what is available by visiting the PNP website >> https://www.portablenorthpole.com/en

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PFS! Package from Santa! 🙂

Following the video… I like the get the Nice List Book from Package from Santa. It makes sense, considering Santa shows each child their special book!

We place both my kids Nice List Book on our fridge. You can put yours wherever you’d like and use it for inspiration and motivation for good behaviour reminders.

Here is Jacob’s Nice List Book 🙂

JT Nice List Book

Here is Victoria’s Nice List Book 🙂

VM Nice List Book

You can also create a personalized video on PFS with restrictions. It will only have 3 views and has an expiry date. Hence, why I prefer PNP’s video options!

Feel free to view all packages on PFS website, but if you’re looking for FREE options only, then grabbing your video on PNP is ideal (free + no view & expiry restrictions), then getting the Nice List Book page (free) on PFS is the best way to go!

Share &amp; Win

You can certainly work your way to get a free package on Package from Santa by referring friends and family. Once you’re logged in, you will see your account page, which will look the same/ similar to mine (above). You can find your video, under videos, and your Nice List Book page under Downloads. You can find your unique referral link under “Share & Win.”

You can learn more about the packages available, as well as the referral for free package details HERE.

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We watched Santa LIVE on Facebook through various Santa Tracker pages. It was really cool to watch and certainly fun for the kids. I will update this post to include a link for 2018 once available.

Also, if there is anything that you do with your LO’s (that’s FREE), I would love to include it in this post. Feel free to share in the comments 🙂

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3 Things Moms Should Never Do!!!

Hot Topic Alert!!!

As moms, there are tons of things we should never do or say. But today, I want to talk specifically about 3 things that all moms should just never do!

1) Don’t Compare.
This one is a given. Yet some moms still do it. Every baby is born blessed and as a unique individual. No baby will ever be the same. This even applies to twins! Comparing will only lead to negative thoughts and or vibes. One will think they’re child is “too slow” or “advanced” etc. All children grow and learn at different (their own) paces. Their life journey will be exactly what it’s supposed to be. Things will happen at the exact moments they are supposed too. You’re in for some surprises and every day will be a new and exciting journey for both you and your child. Enjoy it! It flies by!

2. DO NOT physically abuseyour child or children.
Physical abuse can give mixed signals and messages to your children. Some examples of this are:
• spanking shows ‘stronger’ is right
• demonstrates that ‘older’ people (adults) have the right to hit ‘younger’ people (children)
• gives the example that violence solves problems

A recent study reveals a connection between spanking in childhood and mental health diagnoses later in life.

3. Neglect yourself.
As mother’s, this is a really easy thing to do. We (most of us anyways) feel like nothing and no else matters, once our children are born and come into the picture so to speak. We forget to do little things like brush our teeth, go to the dentist, brush our hair, do our nails, etc.

Before becoming a mother, I told myself that I would never neglect myself! I knew this was going to be hard and obviously much easier said then done. But I made a point to start the very day each of my babies were born. I brought my hair straightener, and make up bag to the hospital. Yup. Read that again. LOL. Thankfully, I didn’t tear or rip for either child, and was able to walk normally (or at least that’s what I told myself) a few hours they were born. One of my first stops in the morning, was to the hospital bathroom, to brush my teeth, hair and to flat iron it straight. I also did my make up. Yup! The entire sha-bang! I wanted to feel and look myself. Let me tell you… this worked! Until this day, I still do that. Every single day. Regardless of what time it is, I am sure to do it! This gives a sense of relief and confidence. I find that the earlier I do this, the better mood I am in for the day. Try it for a consistent period of time. Let me know if it works for you!

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5 Meal Ideas for Picky Toddlers


Toddlers can be very picky and unpredictable sometimes when it comes to their food choices. Some of them just don’t like vegetables or anything that tastes bitter. You will notice this from their unfriendly demeanor anytime you try to feed them specific foods. I’ve also seen some children that prefer eating only what some moms like to call “junk” food like pizza, chocolates, chips, biscuits, burgers, or foods that have no nutritional benefits for them. There are also kids that just shrug anytime you want to give them fruits and/ or vegetables.
Does this sound familiar?
Of course, every parent should be concerned about their child’s fussy eating habits. After all, what they eat during their childhood goes a long way to help them develop strong bones, healthy cells, and a well-developed cognitive system.

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You can only offer them your own home made or preferred food, but you can’t always ‘make’ them like or eat what you want them to eat.

Your best bet is to try and respect your child’s appetite and be patient with them.

I know what you’re thinking… and your right. This is sometimes easier said then done.

I’m going to share five meal ideas (that have worked for my children) that can hopefully help your toddler eat better and of course healthily.

1. Spiralized Salad – Carrot, Apple, Cucumber, and Roasted Chicken

Picky toddlers have one thing in common. They like anything colorful and sweet. They will like this meal and get many nutritional benefits like vitamins and proteins from it. Besides, this spiralized salad is very easy to prepare and it consists of only four ingredients: carrot, apple, cucumber and roasted chicken. But to make it more attractive for your toddler to eat, make sure that you cut some of the ingredients in a spiral shape.

 

2. Shredded Cheese, Meatballs, Peas, and Strawberries

Serve your toddler this meal and they will sing their favorite song for you. With this meal, your baby will get all the nutrients that will make them stronger and healthy. Trust me, you don’t even need to spoon feed them this meal. Just place the meal in a small tray and you will be amazed by how much they will like it.

 

3. Pasta, Broccoli, and Spinach Meatballs

No matter how fussy or picky your children are about food, they will like this meal. Initially, some kids may find this meal uninteresting. If you can convince them to give it a try, not only will they want more, but they will also get additional nutrients that will help them to boost their immune system, digestive system and cardiovascular organs.

 

4. Chicken Strips, Shredded Cheese, and Mixed Veggies

Is your child “super” picky? Give them this meal and you will be surprised with how they will start crying (maybe or maybe not literally🙈) for more. Make sure you cut the veggies properly and ensure that the chicken is well-sliced so that they won’t find it difficult to eat.

 

5. Yogurt Pancakes, Potatoes, and Scrambled Eggs

If there is one reason why I absolutel love this meal, it is because all the ingredients are easily digestible. There are tons of benefits your toddler will get if they consume this meal, large amounts of vitamins and minerals, skin protection, and it will support mental growth.

Do you have any meal ideas that will help picky toddlers? Feel free to share them in the comments section! 🙂 xo

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FEAR is a Liar!

Guest post

Written by Jenny Rodrigues

Founder of Together, Not Alone

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What is FEAR?
Why do we have fear?
Where does this fear come from?
Why suffer with fear?

These are all question we tend to ask ourselves, agreed? Well I ask myself these questions all the time, and even when knowing the answer we still revolve our lives in it. Do you think it’s ok to live life in fear? I personally don’t, but it’s life right! We either learn to live with it, or keep on fighting with it. Honestly this is something that I live with EVERYDAY – my doctor tells me I worship FEAR😩 and I want to do the opposite, I want to live my life happy, peaceful, not being afraid of what’s to come!


WHAT IS FEAR? 

What is fear to me?!
Well the word alone expresses itself. It is a very strong word, and I believe that it’s probably one of the strongest emotions we have aside from HAPPINESS.

Fear is an emotion, an unpleasant emotion, that is triggered by our mind. Our fear is always about what’s going to happen next, wether it’s now, later or tomorrow. Which means that this fear of ours is always about that thing that does not exist. If we are fearing about something that has not happened yet, non existing then I’d say it’s imaginary?! Would you agree? It hasn’t happened yet so why FEAR?


WHY DO WE LIVE WITH FEAR? 

I believe we live life in fear for many reasons:
• EVERYDAY LIFE
• Past experiences

We have fear due to our experiences in life, could be past experiences, present or even future! Think of it! Please correct me if I’m wrong.

Look at it this way!

When we are born we are fearless correct? We are innocent little angels sent from God, who don’t know a thing. But as we grow we slowly get introduced into the emotion of fear. How? well by falling on the floor and getting hurt, ( you won’t want to do that again, because now you have experienced it and know the outcome and become afraid of getting hurt again), watching something on TV (wether it’s a clown or a monster, we now have fear of going to sleep because as kids we think it’s going to come and get us). The images stays with us, in our minds, forever!

As we keep growing we are exposed to more and more, and by being exposed to more; our fear grows stronger and stronger. So now we’re adults, and suffer with anxiety, panic, all because of FEAR. Just like that 💥 it’s taken over.


WHERE DOES THIS FEAR COME FROM?

Again it comes from deep down inside! It’s triggered by many past or current experiences. The fear will always be there bottled up, just waiting for that thought or moment to come right on up and take full control.

The littlest thing can/will trigger that fear deep inside. Doesn’t matter how great your life may be, the minute you come across anything that you know will trigger it, it’s going to happen regardless. Now the only way to make all this go away is by approaching our fear and going for it.

My example for instance:

I live my life everyday in fear – believe it or not, I know it shouldn’t be that way but unfortunately it is. I mean I’m a very positive person and I always see the bright side of things before the bad, but for some odd reason I’m always afraid of something.

Especially when I go through my fases of anxiety and panic!!! I always tend to have my heart on my hands. Why? Idk it just happens that way. Your mind is in such a state that all it sees is fear! Just going to Walmart down the street, I’m already fearing of having a panic attack (hasn’t even happened yet, and I’m already lost in the fear).

We all have our fears, some may admit to it, some choose not too, other people have a very good way of hiding it, but deep down there’s fear.


WHY SUFFER WITH FEAR? 

That’s the big question, why?

Here’s your straight up answer- because WE want to! Because we choose to, because we have insanity and we think and think and think and do NOT just let things happen for happening. We are always omg what if this, why this, why that, but….

NO – we need to stop ✋ this nonsense right NOW 👇!! We need to stop living our life in fear and live in our LIFES! How? By not letting it control how we live, but how we want to and choose to. Yes there is ALWAYS going be that fear like I said earlier, but the only way to subside this part of ourselves is to over come the fears we have. Without doing so we will just keep repeating the same thing over and over and over. I mean if your ok with that shoot yourself, now me on the other hand I’m ready to take action and tell my fear to go F*** ITSELF! Sorry but that’s exactly how I feel about it. I’m tired of having it control my every move, not letting me sleep at night, not being myself.

Do you enjoy living your life in fear? Fearing the unknown? Really? I personally don’t think so!

So why not take action?? 

I’d love to do something with you all if it’s okay? 😊

Im going to ask you to choose a fear you have, doesn’t matter what it is, just pick one to start off and I’d like you to take that fear straight in the face and tell it you are not afraid, and will not let it control you ever again! When doing so I also ask you to make a video and send it to me or if you’d like go ahead and post it on this page!

Once I get a couple of responses I myself will do just the same! I will go live and approach my fear dead in the eye!

Accept your challenge by clicking >> CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!

Let’s better ourselves, together!

P.S Remember everything you ever wanted or want is on the other side of FEAR.

Together, Not Alone 💕

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Hard Boiled Egg #momhack101

How to Remove Egg Shell Easily by Using Cold Water and Ice Cubes

One of the easiest and yet most difficult tasks is removing the egg shell flawlessly.

If you make a mistake while removing the shell, you will end up with a scarred egg that doesn’t look appealing. You could even lose a huge portion of the egg in worse cases. 🙈

I personally LOVE hard boiled eggs. I have 1 (sometimes 2) every single day, from Monday to Friday. Every Monday and Wednesday, I make 4-6 of them. They are perfect for times when I “forget” to eat and/ or don’t have “time” to eat. As moms, this happens to the best of us! I’m sure you can relate.

A lot has been written in cookbooks and various other sources on the best methods of removing the egg shell easily. I think one of the best, quickest and easiest ways of removing the shell, is by using cold water and ice cubes.

Yes, cold water! Yes, Ice cubes! 

Enjoy! 🙂

Fill a pot with water and boil your eggs.

Once the eggs are cooked, remove the pot from the heat, empty out the boiling water, and put the pot (with eggs) in the sink – this is what I do.

You can also transfer the eggs to a different pot, saucepan, or bowl. Add cold water. The cold water should be at a little more then half way full, covering the eggs.

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Add ice cubes! 

I put about 5-10 small cubes. Just enough to fill my pot completely, covering all the eggs.

Allow the eggs to cool in the water for about 5 minutes. You can let it chill longer if you wish.

Five minutes does the trick for me! 🙂


Drain the cold water.

Once the eggs have cooled, drain the cold water. Make sure the pot (or wherever you put your eggs), is totally free of water. You can also use a paper towel to dry them, if you wish.

Start cracking. 🥚

Now, just crack away, one at a time. The shell almost fully comes off right away! You can run more cold water (if needed) and remove the cracked shell while rinsing if you’d like.

It’s that easy! Seriously! 🙂

Check out my 1 minute video cracking tutorial (real time).

https://youtu.be/rmi0lONzPeE

With this method, rest assured that your boiled eggs will be smooth and free of any defect. This method is fast, easy and can be used anytime.

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Potty Training 101

POTTY TRAINING!!

Ahh!! ( This is probably what you’re thinking ).

Whether you have already successfully completed this or not – yet!

We are pretty much responsible for making this moment/ memory in our child’s lives. We mentally prepare ourselves for when they are (or when we think they are) ‘ready.’ We invision the outcome, set out a road map to get there, and go for it! We go through the entire experience: the good, the not go good but getting there, the bad and the messy.

This is an extremely hard experience and milestone, to say the very least.

Jacob was about 1 and a half when I randomly decided to pull out the potty. He never showed any interest whatsoever. I would constantly ask him if he wanted to go potty and kept reassuring him that mamma would go with him. His response was always “no, I don’t want too!”

I decided to just go for it!


I told him that his baby sister was coming soon and that he would have to be out of diapers before she came.

>> BAD MOVE!! <<

I did what most new moms do… I asked around and google’d different potty training methods. I literally tried all of them. None worked. He kept peeing and pooing on the floor. He actually found it quite entertaining so I thought I would put it to bed for another few weeks and try again (in hopes he’d ‘want’ to be ready).

About a month later… 

Some of his cousins and friends were already potty trained. He watched a few of them use the toilet and it was almost like a light bulb went off in his mind, and all of a sudden – he wanted the potty… in his room. Yes, in his room. lol. Every night!!! He refused to potty in it and would argue when I tried to take his pants off. All he wanted was to have the potty in his room during the night.

I told myself…

He clearly still isn’t ready, but let’s ride it out and see what his game plan is.

Another month later…

Still no sign of interest.

Potty still hanging out in his bedroom overnight. 🙈


I thought for sure something was wrong and that maybe I should go see his Doctor for professional advice.

What a rookie mom move! I know… Haha

One thing the dr told me is something I (to this day) continuously tell myself all the time.

It’s something we all already know… 

Every child is unique and will only ever do anything when the time is right and when he or she is ready. << – – CLICK to retweet.

HOW VERY TRUE!! Right?!  

I told Jacob that we had to put the potty away until his sister came and that if/ when he was ready, we would try again.

Victoria was born January 2015, and obviously adapting to having two babies (and a dog) was the most difficult thing I have ever had to do in my life.

Potty Training quickly became a distant memory and no longer something I even wanted to attempt.

LET’S FAST FORWARD…

Jacob was scheduled to start pre school September 2016 a few weeks after his 3rd birthday (August).

During the summer, I was preparing him (& myself of course lol) mentally, and emotionally. I told him he HAD to be out of diapers once he started school because ALL his new friends would be learning as well so they could all also be out of diapers by the time school started.

Three weeks before school started, I told him it was time. I told him we were going to work together to make this a fun (and painless, for me mostly lol) experience! I took off all his clothes and let him walk/ run around naked (literally) and told him he had to tell me when he needed to do peepee so he didn’t do it on the floor. I reassured him he was a big boy and that he could do this! He had a few accidents of course but I was doing my best to follow his every move so that I could place him on the potty during the ‘accident’ and throw a party (not literally haha) for him – for finishing in the potty. We did this for about two weeks. He was excited and enjoyed being praised for doing such a great job. He was proud of himself. It was soooo adorable!

Week 3… 

I told him we could go out and buy him cool underwear. Off to Walmart we went (our first outing in two weeks). I let him pick a few packs and told him as soon as we got home he could put them on. And that’s exactly what he did! He picked his fave undies the second we got home and his fave red Thomas sweat pants (yes, sweat pants during summer😬) and said he wanted to go peepee in the big boy potty and walked himself to the bathroom. I couldn’t believe it! He walked right in, pulled his pants and undies down, and sat on the toilet. He didn’t want help because he said he was a big boy and could do it by himself.

And then… he slipped in… 🙈

He cried and said he was scared. I comforted him and told him I would have to help him until he was big enough to go on his own. He said “no mamma, I’m a big boy!” Then I said “but babe that’s dangerous and you could’ve gotten hurt”.

I quickly put my thinking cap on! I grabbed my phone, off to google I went and I showed him a ‘big boy potty seat’ and told we could go buy one so that he didn’t fall in!

Off to Walmart we went… again! 🙈🙈

I thought he was going to be traumatized because he fell in. That’s seriously the last thing I wanted. We felt so close to the finish line.

We grabbed the big boy potty seat he wanted (Cars) and home, we went.


The second we walked in the door, he said he had to go pee pee! Yessssssssssssss! I set up the big boy potty seat up and on he went.

He did it! He pee’d!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I was sooooooo excited. It finally happened. I clapped, jumped up and down, gave him tons of kisses, hugged him, and told him I was so proud of him – the whole works! LOL

The next few days, he willingly went and did peepee in the toilet with his new seat! It was such an amazing feeling, for the both of us!

We nailed it!

WAIT… no!

We only nailed PART 1 of 2… 💩

He pooped in his pants of course. Every day. For 4 days.

Quick wipe down and change of undies and pants… good as new – I’m sure he was thinking!

I had to hand clean, let dry, then machine wash every single time.

EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

So on day 5 (that morning), I removed all his pants from his drawer. He had an ‘accident’ so we did our usual thing then went to grab pants. We open the drawer, and it’s empty! He looked at me surprised! 🙈

I told him we had no more pants to change into. He was upset and told me to go do the laundry! So I made him come and watch me “deal with the goods” and explained the procedure I follow, then told him we’d have to wait until later tonight. I suggested he wear one his PJ pants but he refused. He put on his undies and went about his day – continuously asking me when we’re going to do the laundry.

Believe it or not, he stayed pantless until bedtime! The next morning, as we’re changing and open his pant drawer, he realizes… it’s still empty!

I let him know that I didn’t get a chance to do the laundry but that I found ONE pair of pants he could wear for the day, as long as he had no accidents!

Can you guess what pair of pants I ‘found’ ?!

Of course…

The red Thomas the Train sweat pants! 🙈

Well thankfully, this worked! He let me know when he had to go poop. We went together. I helped him wipe his bum of course and told him that once he learned to wipe his own bum, I had a special surprise for him!

A few days later (and thankfully a few days before school), he was wiping his own bum! Yesssssss! I gave him a pack of Spider Man Stickers and a white Bristol Board, and told him to have fun and decorate! 🙂


I hope you enjoyed Jacob’s potty training story!

This is one of two stories… Victoria’s story is currently in the works! 🙂Below are a few of my mommy friends childrens’ potty training experiences/ stories.

Feel free to submit your story at anytime to be featured on this post! 🙂 xoJenn Weatherbee

I’m a mother of three, 6 month old twin girls and a 5 year old boy.

Potty training was a long and exhausting battle with my son. A big part of why it took us so long to get him trained was that he attended daycare for a year and they refused to help with potty training.

He was about 2 when we started putting forth a great deal of effort in getting him potty trained, and it took us 1.5 years to get him to finally use the potty full time.

He loved to pee on the potty, that we had little issues getting him to do, it was pooping that was the real struggle. He was due to start school when he was still three and we had to get the potty training done before then.

We tried everything to get him comfortable to go on the potty. We had books, movies, a pirates treasure box, stickers and a calendar, we bought many different potty styles, and even bought an Elmo goes potty toy!

Nothing seemed to work for him. We ended up throwing away all the potty seats and got him a seat that goes right on the toilet , like a big kid would use! This helped but he would still hold his poop as long as he could. While searching for tips I came across a song on YouTube, The Poop Song, Potty Training 101.

It was like a miracle! This song worked! 1.5 years into potty training we finally found something that worked. I highly suggest this to anyone who has issues with their child doing #2 on the toilet! It saved our child tears and me worry about him starting school without being fully trained. I’ve heard girls are easier to train than boys, I will find out soon with my twin girls, I hope it’s true! Good Luck Moms and Dads!
Nattie Theys

My son decided when he was ready. He had no problem peeing but pp’ing was a different story. When he was nearing JK, I told him he wouldn’t be allowed in the school if he was still wearing any form of diaper. A few days later he was walking around in briefs lol.


Marlene Torres

I had the best potty training experience with my daughter. When my daughter turned two I introduced her to the potty. I explained step by step on how we use the potty. One day my daughter approached me said she needed to go poop, she immediatly ran to her potty and did a poop in her potty. I was so happy and congratulated her. Later that day, she kept telling me that she needed to pee, she would run to her potty as fast and she could and peed in her potty every time. Two days passed and she was going to the potty all by herself, and let’s say the rest was history!

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Are you trying to be the perfect mom?

Are you trying to be the perfect mom?


God has not called you to fit in. 1 Peter 2:9

There really is no such thing as the perfect mom.
There is no such thing as a perfect human being, period!
We are all unique individuals created with a form of equality. We are proving that life is worth living as well as living life to the fullest.

As moms, it’s natural for us to feel vulnerable and want to communicate with other fellow mommies. It makes us feel good. Most importantly, it makes us feel sane.

What can suck about this… is those… bad moms.

We all know some of these moms. Heck, we may be one of these moms sometimes! It’s hard not to get sucked in to what other moms are doing. Which then makes it difficult for us to be ourselves and be the absolute best mom we can be.

Usually attract negative vibes. They become bitter by judging others and raise the expectation bar for themselves.

They thrive off gossip which neglects their personal selves by focusing on others. Which in turn, often causes confrontation and drama.

They are so volnerable that they will do whatever it takes to be friends and/ or hang out with one or a group of other moms. They don’t acknowledge the consequences, they just follow.

They feel like they never fit in. Not because they think they’re better, or less than… just because.

Here are 21 bible verses about not fitting in.

Number 6 is one of my faves! I’d love to know yours. Drop it in the comments 🙂 xo

I’m just going to cut to the chase and let you in on a HUGE secret!

BELIEVE! Seriously! It’s that simple.

You will first have to acknowledge that you will NEVER be the perfect mom. You must also understand that will never ever come close to it.
BUT.

Yes, there’s a but… lol

As long as you are doing your absolute BEST at all times – that is all that matters.

Trust that you are making the right decisions and learn from your mistakes.

The only person ever judging you… is yourself!

STOP. 

Think about what’s most important, your child or children.

Everything you do is for them.

They are your reason for living.

As a mom, I tell myself ‘I GOT THIS’ all the time.
You should too!

God has blessed YOU with one or several children.

As moms, we all know and understand one another, whether we want to accept it or not. Only women can experience giving birth and the true meaning of motherhood. Only a woman truly understand the emotional and physical aspects that come with being a caregiver. Only a woman can/ will be in a position to mother/ nurture for a child that’s grown within. Only a mother can really relate and respect another for who she is and what she’s experiencing.

Be unique.
Be genuine.
Be honest.
Be loyal.
Be grateful.
Be courageous.
Be kind.
Be you.

Be the BEST version of yourself.

That is ALL your children will EVER need.

I promise! 🙂 xo


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15 Ways to Relax & Unwind

As a mother of two small babies, it’s extremely difficult to ever make any time for myself. If you’re a mom… then I know you completely understand what I’m saying.
The moment my kiddies go to bed for the night (9pm), I feel a weight lifted off my shoulders almost. Like, I’ve finished my “work” for the day. Like, I can finally sit down, relax, and do me.

But that isn’t always the case! After they are in bed for the night, I feel like I can finally do STUFF! Some things I can manage to throw in during the day, but others I cannot. Sometimes, it’s not that I “can’t”… it’s more like I forget or I attempt to start something, that doesn’t end up happening. LOL

Some things I do every day after they’re asleep is:
• clean up the house (put toys and stuff away)
• clean the floors (sweep, dry swifter and mop every night)
• the kitchen (do the dishes and put them away or throw them in the dishwasher)
• do laundry
• take the dog out
• feed the fish (we have 3 red tails)
• prepare lunch and sometimes dinner too, for the following day
• switch the laundry
• eat a snack
• make hubbies lunch
• check on the kiddies
• take a bath and unwind a bit
• get and put the laundry away
• catch up with social media

I know your list must be similar but may include less or more… either way, I know you have a list of things you do after the kiddies are asleep! When I look at my list, the only time I actual relax and unwind is when I’m taking a bath… And by the time I’m done all the things on my list, I just want to curl up in my cozy bed and sleep!

It’s so important for us to MAKE TIME for ourselves. This is definitely something I don’t do enough! I’ve recently added a silent/ quiet time to my bath time. I literally put my phone down, put a few drops of my favourite Essential Oils in (CHILL is my fave), sit/ lay back, and relax. I do this for about 10 minutes. It doesn’t seem like much time, I know, but it definitely does my mind, body and soul GOOD! I’m working on incorporating more ME time into my life. We all know this isn’t an easy thing to do. Whether it’s big or small. It’s hard. But it is something we MUST all do!


I’ve complied a list of 15 things/ ways we, as moms, can do to relax and unwind.

1) Get Fresh Air.
This is one of my biggest outlets to de-stress, relax and unwind. Getting out of the house, breathing fresh air for anywhere from 5-30 minutes helps me collect my thoughts and clear my mind.
2) Take a nice long bath (include essential oils or candles).

3)  Enjoy some Tea, Hot Chocolate, or a Glass of Wine

4) Snuggle with your Significant Other or Pet(s)

5) Watch some TV

6) Listen to Music

7) Read a Book

8) Write in a Notebook, Pocket Journal or Diary

9) Yoga

10) Mediate

11) Get a Massage

12) Get a Mani or Pedi (or both!)

13) Turn off technology

14) Just sit and put your feet up

15) Pray – Tap into a higher power.
If you’re a religious person, or even a spiritual one, try prayer, spiritual reflection or meditation, recommends Joseph Ojile, MD, founder of the Clayton Sleep Institute in St. Louis and a spokesman for the National Sleep Foundation. These practices promote a restful mind and body.
There you have it! 15 Ways to RELAX & UNWIND! 🙌🏼

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